Social Media and Divorce - Some basic rules
When I started out as a divorce adviser there were no Facebook posts, tweets, snapchats, WhatsApps and texts. The only way someone knew about your business, was if you physically told them, wrote them a letter or someone scrawled salacious gossip on a public toilet wall.
Now, we have umpteen social media apps and websites to vent our spleen on. The age group most likely to divorce in 2015 are the kids born in the late 1960's and 1970's, the 40 somethings who invented the World Wide Web, text messaging and of course techno.
They are now the majority of users on Facebook and Twitter as young people have bailed out to Snapchat and WhatsApp and others I have not yet even heard of.
Just take a look at your friends walls, do it now and you will see posts that will make you wince. Alcohol and posting content do not mix and when you are in the middle of a divorce, some of the things you post can and will be used as evidence against you ( or was that an episode from Traffic Cops?)
Before even thinking of posting comments regarding your future ex’s downfalls or uploading a photo showing that the divorce is causing you to go doolally, keep in mind that his or her lawyer is probably monitoring your site for tidbits and evidence of your unstable mental health for starters.
if you then start to have a social life woah betide you if you start posting pictures of you rolling out of nightclubs with attached member of the opposite sex.
How social media can be used against you
Generally, courts will allow information shared on social media sites to be considered in divorce cases, where it is relevant to conduct and has been obtained legally.
Courts have reviewed information from status updates, tweets and even pictures posted online when making determinations in divorce proceedings.
Listing these updates as private may not matter, as some courts have allowed postings view-able only by family and friends to be considered in their decisions.
The easiest way to avoid social media entering the Divorce proceedings is to take a step back from the tablet, avoid posting while under the influence and use your brain rather than your emotion. If in doubt, don’t post!
Research has validated that social media use can also actually lead to divorce.
Researchers found that in general, people who use social media are 32% more likely to leave their spouse. So if you notice your significant other spending a little too much time on Facebook, checking Twitter or Instagram in the middle of the night, he or she could be looking into other options.
Facebook in particular is “a positive, significant predictor of divorce rate and spousal troubles,” the researchers note.
Divorce Online produced a survey in 2009 that found 1 in 5 of it's divorces contained references to Facebook and a follow up survey in 2011 confirmed the same.